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At age 22, I started stripping. For the next fifteen years I worked off and on as a dominatrix, porn actress, and escort. I'm about to be 50.
Here are 23 things I know now that I WISH I KNEW THEN:
#1: Save Your Money. Save your money. Save your money
#2: You are sexy as fuck
#3: After 40, Nobody Cares
#4: Ignore the Competition
#5: You are never too old
#6: Compound Interest is your best friend
#7: Anger is a drug
#8: It's okay to let people go
#9: The people who get you are everything
#10: Hurt People Hurt People
#11: There's More To Money Than Making It (Way, Way More)
#12: The Hate Radio in Your Head Has an Off Switch
#13: Sex Work does not define you now; it will not define you forever
#14: Sex Work Doesn't Have to be fun (In fact, it's often better if it isn't)
#15: Don't Assume that anyone is better off than you
#16: Pay your taxes (I know--Not sexy)
#17: You can fire any client for any reason any time (and maybe you should)
#18: Loneliness, Isolation, & Boredom are choices
#19: It's never just about sex (Well, hardly ever)
#20: Have an emergency plan
#21: Know your business
#22: Forgive yourself
#23: Sex workers need love too (In fact, we need it most of all)