Frequently Asked Questions

Are you available for speaking and writing gigs?

Currently I’m available for voice interviews for media or academia, along with radio or podcast conversations. Please review my guidelines for podcast/radio interviews here before contacting me at loladavina1 at gmail dot com.

I am NOT available to conduct workshops, write, or participate in filmed video projects at this time.

If you are a pro-sex work nonprofit organization, I will consider appearing on an in-person or video panel, if my schedule permits. Email me.

I live in the U.S. and want to purchase your books in whatever way it helps you the most. where's the best place to buy?

Great question, and I appreciate that so much!

I want to buy your paperbacks and ebooks, but I don’t live in the U.S.

Great question—thanks for asking.

Unfortunately, as a self-published author, my options are limited. International shipping is hideously expensive, costing more than the paperbacks themselves. For paperbacks, I’m mostly dependent on Amazon for overseas sales. Check the Amazon site that delivers in your country.

If you live in Canada, the UK, or Australia, you can try ordering from your local bookstore. (I keep an incomplete list of international bookstores that already carry Thriving on their shelves here.)

Ebook versions of Thriving and Sex Work and Money should be available through your country’s compatible ebook platforms. The only way to purchase an ebook version of the workbook is buying the PDF through my website here.

I love your books and want to tell the world, but I can't/am not comfortable leaving a review on Amazon, iTunes, etc.

I get it! For those of you who received the book as a gift, or bought it through a civvy account, or don't give your money to mega-companies, you can still share your thoughts by:

• Emailing me your review, and I'll post it on my Testimonials page.

• Heading over to Goodreads and leaving a review there.

• Blogging about it. Send me a link-- I'll promote it!

I’m part of a sex-worker nonprofit/NGO. Do you ever donate books or offer them at a reduced price?

Email me information about your organization, along with how many books you need, to LolaDavina at protonmail dot com. Please note that I can only donate paperbacks domestically, but I’ll work with international organizations in other ways. Also, I’m only checking my emails once a month, so plan accordingly.

I’m curious about getting into sex work, or am just starting out in sex work, or need help building up my sex work business. What free advice can you offer me?

Respectfully, that’s what my books are for. You can check out free chapter samples here on my website, or listen to audio chapters here.

Please note that I do not dispense advice on how to break into porn or become an escort or open an OF account here on my website or in any of my books. My focus is self-care. For that kind of nuts-and-bolts information, you’ll need to look elsewhere.

Are you available for one-on-one coaching or counseling?

Not at this time, no.

I have a terrific life story. I’m looking for a literary agent, publisher, or journalist to help me get it out there.

I’m sorry—I can’t help you with that.

I have a product or a service I’d like you to link to on your website.

I have strict guidelines as to what I will link to my site, since I consider that to be a direct endorsement to my readers. I will consider it if:

• You are a nonprofit

• Your product or service is free or very low cost

• Your mission is to help sex workers, PoC, trans* folks, LGBTQIA folks, the unhoused, the previously incarcerated, undocumented workers, or other marginalized groups

I will make certain exceptions if the link is to something of specific interest and value to the sex worker community. Click here for an example of a for-profit entity I linked to offering advice and education along with a pitch for their (low cost) privacy service.

I have a sex-work-related project. I need: Statistics/studies/sex worker contacts, etc.

I am unavailable to help you at this time.

You're retired, Lola. Why do you still call yourself a sex worker?

Fair question. After all, a job in the sex industry isn't the same as sexual orientation or gender identity.

Somebody smart once said you're a Lusty like you're a Marine: for life. "Former" never appears in front of the title. I've been retired for more than a decade now, but sex work remains a key component of my sexual and career identity and continues to shape my worldview. For me, sex worker is a lifetime identification.