In the 80’s and 90’s Prince was the soundtrack to my life as a sexual adventurer. His funky grooves were an itch coursing through my veins that made me want to be a stripper, a professional sadist, a porn star. To dress like a slut, to work my body like a whore.
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Read MoreSex work is hard, and it takes a wide range of support to excel at it. If you’re dabbling to pick up a few bucks, perhaps all of this isn’t for you. But if you want to do better than survive — make good money and walk away with something worthwhile — treat yourself like a business. Successful people don’t do things half-assed hoping to strike it rich. They plan. They save. They invest.
Read MoreEvery once in a rare while, I’d encounter one of the dark ones, the sadists, the sociopaths, the ones I call the bastards.
Read MoreThese clients are worshipful. Like hunters, they’re seekers. However, like maintenance clients, once they find what they’re looking for, they can be fiercely loyal. What sets these clients apart is they seek peak erotic experiences, and they need emotional connection, too.
Read MoreHunters, as the name suggests, have an edge. They’re searching for something ever elusive, perhaps something they’ve been looking for their whole lives, but never found. They itch for variety.
Read MoreEveryone who has been in the biz for more than a month has their own idea of how clients break down into categories and which types of clients they like best. There are always pitfalls in classifying large groups of people, but it can still be useful.
Read MoreWhen was the best time to do sex work? Talk to the old timers, the Golden Age of porn was the 1970’s when it was the freest and the most fun (and pre-AIDS, the safest.)
Read MoreThe biz is a wild beast. Vast, varied, and remarkably dynamic, for the past forty years the one thing that never changes about the sex industry is that it’s always changing.
Read MoreListen—do me a favor. While you’re working, make art out of your experiences, please? You never know when those memories will be useful later. For so many underground sex radicals, because hiding is the surest way to stay safe, our histories are lost to the ages.
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