As RuPaul correctly points out, we’re all born naked—the rest is drag. I always looked at getting dressed for work as a costume. I don’t know if you can be a female drag queen, but that was always my approach: lace and heels and make-up weren’t my birthright, but something I secretly stole from the femmes who truly “owned” them.
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Read MoreDear Lola: I see that you married a client, and I was wondering if you have any advice for me on how to meet and marry an escort?
Read MoreIt took me 2 1/2 years, but I'm finally done with the writing and editing of Thriving in Sex Work!
Read MoreSometimes you think that fellow cammer is going to be your BFF, but things don't work out like you hoped.
Read MoreI'm not a CPA, and I don't play one on t.v. But I've been fortunate to get excellent tax and investment advice over the years from sex work-friendly accountants; here's some of what I learned.
Read MorePodcast of sex worker stories-- I tell the story of my first time!
Read MoreThree podcasts in three weeks, and a new article dropping for YNOTcam.com -- I've been busy!
Read MoreYou can check me out on This Damn World, talking about sex work, self-care, and the new Tr*mp Regime. Her Name was Lola
Read MoreHow do you motivate yourself on those days when the last thing you want to do is cam? A bad attitude is bad for business. Here’s some advice on what to do when you just aren’t feeling it.
Read MoreJerks happen. We can’t just ignore them and hope they go away. We have to be proactive. Here's a three-step plan to keep the bastards from getting you down.
Read MoreThe whole world ogles sex workers; sex workers’ attention is glued to their clients; clients take everything in, revealing nothing. It’s about time clients step out into the light, take full responsibility for themselves, and write their own damned books.
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