Sex Work and Money
Table of Contents
Part One: The Emotional Life of Sex Work Money
Litany For Survival, by Audre Lorde
Enoughness
Enoughness Exercise
First Tool: Positive Affirmations
Third Tool: Self-Compassion
Earliest Money Memory
Earliest Money Memory Exercise
Money Demons
I’ve Ruined My Life
Exercise: Grieving Past Mistakes
I’m Worthless
Exercise: Stepping Into Your Worth
I’m Not Good Enough
Exercise: Living Your Best Sex Work Life
I Don’t Deserve More
Exercise: Honoring Our Ancestors
I Can’t Take Care of Myself
Exercise: Letting The Kids Out
Money is Dirty
Exercise: Winning The Lottery
The System is Fucked
Exercise: Bread and Roses
I Can Never Have Enough
Exercise: Assessing Your Everything
Everyone Has It Better Than Me
Exercise: Keeping A Gratitude Journal
Exercise: Thanking Our Bodies
Exercise: Letting Go
Exercise: Earliest Money Memory Revisited
Exercise: What Is Our Ideal Relationship To Money?
Part Two: Practical Sex Work Money Advice
Practical Sex Work Money Advice: An Introduction
Banking
Earning
Asserting Ourselves
Sliding Scale: A Conversation with Mistress Ilsa Strix
Having a Side-Hustle
Time Management and Productivity
Hourly Rate Calculation
Consistency, Reliability, and Transparency
Budgeting
Tracking
Refining Your Budget
Saving
Spending
Investing
Paying Taxes
Borrowing
Giving, Sharing, and Comingling
Loaning
Donating to Charity and Those In Need
Bequeathing
Recap
The Next Steps
Conclusion
Appendix
Special Thanks and Acknowledgments
Additional Reading: Ask A Pro
Writing the Perfect Ad: A Conversation with Taylor B. Jones
Understand What You’re Signing: A Conversation with Conner Habib
Is Forming A Corporation Or LLC Right For Your Sex Work Business?: A Conversation with Christopher Kirk
Internet Security: A Conversation with Violet Blue
Combatting Online Piracy: A Conversation with Jiz Lee
Diversification and Passive Income Streams: A Conversation with Amberly Rothfield
A Mindful Money Mindset: A Conversation with Fresh “Lev” White
Shame, Power, and the Erotics of Sex Work Money: A Conversation with Dr. Carol Queen
Guest Author Biographies and Recommended Reading
Additional Resources
Envelope Budgeting
Definitions