As a retired-and-out sex worker, Thriving in Sex Work: Heartfelt Advice for Staying Sane in the Sex Industry connects to straight to my heart. I’m so proud to introduce this valuable and vital resource to you. In this interview, Lola told me how she writes and what’s coming next. And her answer to my standard sexy writer interview question will blow you away.
Read MoreThe folks who get you through the hard times and celebrate your triumphs are priceless. Everyone else is just a life lesson.
Read MoreIn the modern age, the internet provides endless opportunities for us to follow other people’s public lives in ways that can make us feel like we don’t measure up. There’s even a fancy new term for it: Obsessive Comparison Syndrome. OCS is “a compulsion to compare oneself with others in a way that produces anxiety and depression.”
Read MoreIt’s okay to let go of people who aren’t really your friends. This was a surprisingly difficult lesson. Holding onto people too long caused me a lot of pain and drama.
Read MoreRage is a drug. Anger can act as a shield or an engine, and can be tremendously motivating. It also can be incredibly self-destructive.
Read MoreWhile plenty of books and articles offer step-by-step advice about how to manage finances, most of us aren’t taught to examine how money (or the lack of it) makes us feel. The result is many of us have money blind spots, which can result in unrealistic expectations, magical thinking and bad decision-making.
Read MoreIf I have one regret from my decade as a 20-something, it's that I didn’t invest back when my whole life was stretched out in front of me. I didn’t start saving until I was in my thirties, and even then, I needed a lot of handholding. The biggest reason for this? I was afraid that as a sex worker, I couldn’t ask for help. That does not have to be you.
Read MoreGreat new article by @sluttygrlprobs offering tons of great information for new cammers.
Read MoreMy chat with Kyra and Shaye, two fabulous cam gals of Sex Work BB Podcast.
Read MoreI never encountered anyone who aged out of the sex industry. I saw people quit for all kinds of reasons, but nobody I ever met celebrated some black magic birthday and *poof* their phones stopped ringing.
Read MoreFocus on you. After all, your profile is the only one you have any control over, and the only one that will bring you any business. Obsessing over what others do distorts your values and intentions.
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