Terrific podcast with Cameron Airen of Real Feminist Stories. We discuss sex work and self-care, of course, along with shame, emotional labor, and the intersection of feminism and sex work.
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When you’re forty, nobody is going to give two shits that you did sex work in your teens or twenties. Or your thirties. Or at all, ever. By the time you’re middle-aged, everyone has their story — they’ve struggled with addiction, they’ve gone bankrupt, they’ve had an abortion or been to jail or have a child who doesn’t speak to them...
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You are sexy as fuck, just as you are. Stop obsessing with some imaginary version of yourself. Instead, love what you’ve got.
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Advertising in the cam space is congested, contested, and confusing—standing out is not easy. Decisions we make today have potential repercussions—to our brand, our reputations, our sense of self—for years to come. So the stakes are high. This isn’t just our livelihoods we’re talking about—it’s our lives.
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Let me tell you what sex work money means, if no one has ever told you.
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As RuPaul correctly points out, we’re all born naked—the rest is drag. I always looked at getting dressed for work as a costume. I don’t know if you can be a female drag queen, but that was always my approach: lace and heels and make-up weren’t my birthright, but something I secretly stole from the femmes who truly “owned” them.
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That depends on whom you ask.
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Dear Lola: I see that you married a client, and I was wondering if you have any advice for me on how to meet and marry an escort?
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It took me 2 1/2 years, but I'm finally done with the writing and editing of Thriving in Sex Work!
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Sometimes you think that fellow cammer is going to be your BFF, but things don't work out like you hoped.
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I'm not a CPA, and I don't play one on t.v. But I've been fortunate to get excellent tax and investment advice over the years from sex work-friendly accountants; here's some of what I learned.
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Podcast of sex worker stories-- I tell the story of my first time!
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